Living in Surrender, Not Chaos

Recently, I signed up for inner healing. In just two weeks, I completed three sessions, and a heavy weight was lifted from my shoulders. I took notes along the way, and I now prayerfully share them, hoping that together we can help moms live a life of surrender rather than chaos.

Action Steps: Living in Surrender, Not Chaos (adapted from Joon Shortell, Orbis Ministry)

1. Start Each Day in Surrender

• Begin with: “Lord, today is Yours—Your mercies are new.”
• Ask: “How do I walk with You today, not by myself?”
• Choose trust over fear: fully rely on Jesus, not your own strength.

2. Establish Daily Worship

• Worship shifts the atmosphere—chaos loses power in God’s presence.
  • Song: Make A Way
• Create a rhythm: morning and night worship.

3. Build Your Prayer Altar (Daily Habit)

• Set aside intentional time with God every day.
• This is your personal “altar” (inspired by the teaching of John Mulinde).
• At your altar:
  • Pray
  • Listen
  • Receive wisdom and strategy
• Over time, your home becomes a place of God’s presence.

4. Invite the Holy Spirit Into Every Situation

• When chaos comes, pause and ask:
  • “God, what is this? Give me wisdom.”
• Even when life feels overwhelming, declare:
  • “This is not from God.”
  • “God is a God of order, not chaos.”
• Expect Him to answer.
• With the Holy Spirit present, chaos becomes clarity.

5. Recognize Spiritual Battles (Not Just Natural Ones)

• Rooted in the Epistle to the Ephesians (chapter 6):
  • We don’t fight what we see—but what is unseen.
  • Ask:
    • “Is there a spiritual blockage?”
    • “What is preventing connection, peace, or breakthrough?”

6. Pray Specifically for Breakthrough

• Ask God:
  • “What is the root?”
  • “What spirit is influencing this situation?”
• Then pray directly against it.

7. Pray With Authority in Jesus‘ Name

• Don’t just observe problems—speak against them.
• Pray:
  • Against fear, trauma, grief, confusion
  • Against anything blocking unity or healing
• Declare:
  • “I break this in the name of Jesus.”
• Example areas:
  • Trauma → pray healing
  • Division → pray unity
  • Legal/custody issues → pray favor and justice

8. Take Authority Over Your Home

• Your home is your God-given territory.
• You are spiritually responsible for its atmosphere.
• Practical steps:
  • Pray over each room
  • Dedicate your home to God
  • Declare: “Any darkness is not welcome here.”

9. Bless Your Children Daily

• Speak life over them every morning.
• Especially important for children carrying wounds (trauma, adoption, etc.).
• Use the Priestly Blessing from Book of Numbers 6:
  “The Lord bless you and keep you…”
• Call them by name and bless:
  • Identity
  • Peace
  • Future
  • Healing

10. Prepare Spiritually Before Situations

• Pray before people enter your home.
• Set the atmosphere in advance.
• Expect God to move.

11. Live With Expectation and Hope

• Expect God to act.
• When disappointment comes:
  • Reject the enemy’s lies
  • Return to worship
• Remember: God turns things around—this is how you experience Him.

12. End Each Day in Gratitude

• Thank God for what He did.
• Thank Him in advance for what He will do.
• Declare:
  • “I am weak, but He makes me strong.”

Today, no matter what you are facing, take a moment to pause and pray, “Lord, today is yours – Your mercies are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness. I choose a life of surrender over a life of chaos. In Jesus name, Amen.”

The Lord will meet you and bring peace to the chaos you are facing. He is faithful.

Mama, you are seen! You are loved. You are not alone. Here are some resources for your inner healing: Orbis Ministry and Wellspring of Freedom International

There is a great cloud of witnesses cheering you, and so am I!

Cheering you on,

Jocelyn Williams,
NDM Consultant, Mental Health Coach, Developmental Therapist

What about you? As a mom to a child with unique needs, how do you live in surrender rather than chaos? We’d love to hear from you. Comment below: